tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3562980483638234444.post8247102674275246228..comments2023-07-17T03:07:15.171-07:00Comments on The Carpenters-Luke, Shelly, James, Lauren, Graham & Landry: It is Well with My Soul...Shellyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09008859705209511462noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3562980483638234444.post-86543349381159066982010-09-25T18:21:50.729-07:002010-09-25T18:21:50.729-07:00To the Carpenter family....always remember that th...To the Carpenter family....always remember that there is the continued healing always. This little one that I viewed tonight is gracefully looking down upon his family and will continue to watch over you from his glory that he has far above us all.. and that soon we will all cross his path to grace his presence:).. from some one in florida...please see the same song sung on the bill gather (youtube) brought tears to me eyes.. but love the movement it brings to my end of the day:)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3562980483638234444.post-18524649212685001912010-09-24T03:45:50.794-07:002010-09-24T03:45:50.794-07:00Shelly,
I wanted to let you know that i thought a...Shelly,<br /><br />I wanted to let you know that i thought about you yesterday...and little graham too. I read your blog....you are right in the sense you are seeing things a little differently then before and I can see the healing taking place in your heart...but that place left will always be there for your baby. It never goes away....it does tend to ache more times then others. I believe that you will become even stronger as you go forward....it takes some time but you start to notice it in the little things....things that normally would effect me before my haley...now are barely even able to touch me. I am armoured with sadly knowing the worse about things, so little everyday bumps in the road are like nothing anymore. I guess that is one blessing that comes from losing your child. we are changed Shelly...we are now keepers of the memories of our child and sharing with others about them keeps them alive in the hearts of many. thank you for sharing your heart. I am glad writing is helping you too. Take care and keep in touch...it has been awhile since we talked.My Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04885534286748747207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3562980483638234444.post-1074129326365266232010-09-22T12:57:47.573-07:002010-09-22T12:57:47.573-07:00Shelly, I stumbled onto your blog as a result of a...Shelly, I stumbled onto your blog as a result of a tip from a family member. I remember you, not so much from specific memories in high school, but because you were in my brother's class, and your pure, passionate, and heartfelt desire to chase after God in everything has forever been stamped in my memory.<br /><br />Your vulnerability, honesty, and utter grief you've spilled onto your blog pages is absolutely amazing to me - and quite a challenge. I think the only way I can capture your honesty is what Paul says in 2 Corinthians 1 - you're using your blog to display the comfort God continually gives you so that others may be comforted. How can you be so selfless in such an utterly heartwrenching time?<br /><br />Anyway, please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Especially for tomorrow. You've given me reason to cherish every day that much more with my husband and kids and to hold on tight to each moment, each second, because life is truly but a vapor. Thanks for living your life still in complete honor to God.<br /><br />-Jenn (Barben) Dodddoddyjhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15620430590308381959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3562980483638234444.post-82762968730724505142010-09-14T04:31:34.034-07:002010-09-14T04:31:34.034-07:00My Precious Daughter,
My heart continues to ache ...My Precious Daughter,<br /><br />My heart continues to ache not only for you, but for all of us.We miss Graham so much and will always miss him."When sorrow like sea billows roll" identifies the wave of emotions that have engulfed our family the past 8 months; but none of us have felt it like you, his mother.It has been so hard to miss Graham and see you and Luke suffer so much.Seeing the little glimmer of hope that shines through your words gives me reason to thank God for His promises and His faithfulness.We all want you to be able to "breathe" again and we know that you want that, too.Thank you for being willing to let us all get a glimpse into your soul where all the love, pain, and hope are wrapped up.It helps us all know better how to continue to pray for you and be there for you.God will bring beauty from the ashes...I have already seen Him working to make it happen.I will continue to trust Him to do greater things than we ever could have imagined!<br /><br />I love you!<br /><br />MOMAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3562980483638234444.post-76886985185977984152010-08-31T12:12:35.691-07:002010-08-31T12:12:35.691-07:00I love you dear friend. I am so happy that you ar...I love you dear friend. I am so happy that you are finding some peace through all of this uncertainty. You are never far from my thoughts dear friend. Sending you lots of love and prayers.<br /><br />P.S. I love the idea of the chest. I'm sure it will be just beautiful!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3562980483638234444.post-76769597629349557252010-08-26T14:51:29.088-07:002010-08-26T14:51:29.088-07:00Shelly,
Your words carry unimaginable weight. The...Shelly,<br /><br />Your words carry unimaginable weight. The articles are hard to read without stopping at certain moments. Your and Luke's faith are so evident and inspire us to change our outlook on all the precious gifts we have from the Lord.<br /><br />"It is well with my soul" is an amazing song written by an author who lived not all that far away from Goshen. <br /><br />Thanks for sharing.<br /><br />We keep your family in our prayers.<br /><br />paul and lanapaul and lananoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3562980483638234444.post-1995476144033177672010-08-24T12:21:48.648-07:002010-08-24T12:21:48.648-07:00I came across your fb page when a mutual friend of...I came across your fb page when a mutual friend of ours commented and it showed up on my newsfeed about 7 months ago. After reading the comment I then decided to read your blog and although we've never met I have been thinking of you and sending prayers for strength your way. I wanted to check in and see how you were doing and I saw the post 'It is well with my soul.' This struck me because a couple weeks ago at church we sang this song in rememberance of a young child. We were told the history of the song beforehand and it was written by a man who lost all 5 of his children, 4 in a ship accident. There is a lot of power behind those words and a wonderful song to find comfort in. I hope you continue to find strength every day. Your children are beautiful and they have a wonderful angel looking over them now. Thank you for sharing your story, I admire your honest words and emotional strength. I will continue to keep your family in my thoughts.<br />-friend of a friend ;)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3562980483638234444.post-43085729213901211102010-08-22T12:29:41.347-07:002010-08-22T12:29:41.347-07:00Hello Shelly. I know this is only the second time ...Hello Shelly. I know this is only the second time I have ever said any thing, but one part made me want to write you again. When you said talk to me, don't be afraid to make me cry. I wish I would have known that a while back. See, in May, my husband, daughter and I decided to plan a last minute trip back to Indiana. When we went to the airport to buy our tickets, you and your family were there, going back to Indiana after your trip here in Florida. I told my husband I was almost certain it was you all and when I showed him your blog after we got home, he agreed. I wanted to talk to you then, wanted to tell you how often we pray for you and how sorry we are, but I couldn't bring myself to even say Hello. I almost started crying right there at the airport. I could see the pain in your eyes, but you kept a smile for your other children who are even more beautiful in person. I'm glad you had a wonderful trip and I am still praying for you especially as this time of year comes and goes. So if I ever see you in a totally random place someday, I will be sure to introduce myself and ask how you are. :o)Bethany Mhttp://www.facebook.com/airforcebridenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3562980483638234444.post-148944277128786802010-08-20T10:24:10.856-07:002010-08-20T10:24:10.856-07:00Oh Shelly...what more can I say that these others ...Oh Shelly...what more can I say that these others haven't? You are without a doubt the most beautiful person inside AND out that I have ever met. Your words & raw emotions that you have continued to share with us are so amazing. You are such a strong woman to bear all like that, and I so appreciate you pouring out your heart. I will NEVER stop praying for you & your precious family. I wish there was something that I could tell you that I "remember" about him, but I wasn't able to meet your precious Graham. But I do know this, with a Mama like you he is one blessed little man :) Love you much!Nikkihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09232810692449506866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3562980483638234444.post-16402549135807053282010-08-20T10:21:20.646-07:002010-08-20T10:21:20.646-07:00Shelly, I continue to think about you and Graham a...Shelly, I continue to think about you and Graham almost daily and continue to pray for you and your family. You are SO loved Shell! Thanks for your honestly and vulnerability!Chad and Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11793717389244174696noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3562980483638234444.post-57598062369161616542010-08-20T09:13:04.856-07:002010-08-20T09:13:04.856-07:00I've never commented on my own post, but here ...I've never commented on my own post, but here it goes...Sarah, a memory trunk is what we are having made to keep all of Graham's very special things in. Some people have a small box, but I wanted to be able to fit as much as possible in it now as well as add to it through the years. Things that remind us of him, pictures the kids make for him, etc...I also want it to be a piece of furniture that be a beautiful reminder of our Graham. Luke's uncle and family friend have handcrafted it from cherry wood. I'm sure it will be just beautiful....putting his things in a plastic tub simply isn't sufficient.<br />Oh and as far as my Cokes are concerned, it's my thighs that are getting a bit worried! ;)<br />Thank you all for your kind words to me...and again, THANK YOU for being a part of our healing!Shellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09008859705209511462noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3562980483638234444.post-37535194197720200962010-08-20T08:59:25.250-07:002010-08-20T08:59:25.250-07:00You write SO beautifully, Shelly! Your words are ...You write SO beautifully, Shelly! Your words are just so perfect and bring me to tears every time. I think of you often! It makes me smile to know that you are finally feeling some peace. God is good and there are so many people STILL praying for you and your cute family. <br /><br />Explain a memory trunk - I've never heard of that before and would love to know more details about that!<br /><br />I see nothing wrong with McDonald's cokes - nothing!Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11337313800561094619noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3562980483638234444.post-81074490429205269842010-08-20T07:11:36.319-07:002010-08-20T07:11:36.319-07:00Shelly,
I just read your blog as I am writing my o...Shelly,<br />I just read your blog as I am writing my own about my daughter Hannah. I just felt the closeness only mothers can feel to your pain that have experienced it. I want you to know that I am here anytime. It has been quite a long while since we last talked but I have been going through alot with the month of August stomping on my heels. Haley's Heaven Day just passed and it was a hard one. HOw you explain your grief is very similar to how anyone who has lost a child feels. Oh, and drink as many cokes as you need to drink you deserve it!! Lord knows we need it, one little thing to help us through a tough day. You are a wonderful person and Mother and Wife!! You are incredibly strong and wise in your thinking about Graham about what is next and what has happened. All the feelings so raw with emotion sit sometimes idle and then they rev back up and we heal some more....this is how it works. It has been now 6 years and I have learned to take things in stride. It is I believe a life long process of grieving and yes, it gets easier, but it does not go away. You just learn to tolerate the ups and the downs and smile as you watch your other children life the live we only wish thier siblings could of lived. Look forward to talking with you soon.<br /><br />www.caringbridge.org/visit/haleyroseMy Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04885534286748747207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3562980483638234444.post-36352948313579557182010-08-19T23:08:23.919-07:002010-08-19T23:08:23.919-07:00My prayers are still daily! I know its been a whi...My prayers are still daily! I know its been a while since I've written but know that you have been in my thoughts on a daily basis! I am so grateful to God for a little ease to the encompassing grief! Thank you for sharing your heart. What a precious heart it is! Love you!Carriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17979432893048345886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3562980483638234444.post-18248107399399059192010-08-19T20:11:33.373-07:002010-08-19T20:11:33.373-07:00p.s. I didn't realize that I was spelling Grah...p.s. I didn't realize that I was spelling Graham's name wrong, I am so sorry for my error.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3562980483638234444.post-91519538296795931842010-08-19T20:08:59.674-07:002010-08-19T20:08:59.674-07:00Hi Shelly,
I have never written to you before, bu...Hi Shelly, <br />I have never written to you before, but I have been following and saying prayers for you, Grahm, and your entire family. When I first stumbled upon your blog, my first son was 3 months old. I held him a little longer that night, as I shed tears for your loss. My heart aches for you as I read your blog, but do believe that you are healing and honoring Grahm all at the same time. <br />Continue to hold onto your precious memories and know that Grahm has made one mother out there take many more moments and cherish them even more. You, Grahm, and your family have forever touched my heart and my life, and for that there aren't enough words to thank you! StaceyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3562980483638234444.post-1155139370836611252010-08-19T19:25:32.668-07:002010-08-19T19:25:32.668-07:00Wow! Shelly, all I can say is "WOW"! R...Wow! Shelly, all I can say is "WOW"! Reading this, I realize how much you have worked through in coming to reality with your feelings and facing them right on! Your words are honest, as always, but I hear so much healing in them! Praise God! He IS carrying you every day! This is so helpful in knowing how to continue to pray for you and Luke and the kids each day. I have the picture of Graham on my desk and I see it each morning! His smile always brings a smile to my morning : ) I am amazed at the level of understanding you have of why you feel certain ways...it shows so much growth! I pray for God to continue to teach you and for you to just lean heavily on Him on those days you can't breathe or stand up on your own. I love you, sweetie! And "It is Well with my Soul" has always been a favorite of mine! Some days it is all we have to cling to! Thank you for sharing! <br />Hugs,<br />BobbieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com